If you’re anything like me, you offer an enthusiastic “yes” to whatever anyone asks you. You’re stretched thin all hours of the day, and once you finally sit down, you feel as if the stresses of the day will never leave your shoulders.
Whenever I feel overworked, stressed, sad, and anxious, I turn to my Holy Trinity of Self-Care. In the new age where the idea of self-care is actually becoming a trend, it’s more acceptable to say “No” and put yourself first; but you probably still need a reminder to take some time for yourself. Behold, my Holy Trinity of Self Care initiatives. Consider this your “friendly reminder” to treat yourself to some self-care tonight.
Anxiety is something that often fills a majority of my day. Here’s what I do to banish those feelings whenever they become too much.
Read a good book
Nothing is better for slowing down and relaxing than to escape to another world for a few moments. Reading not only helps keep your mind sharp and ready to go, but it soothes the waves of anxiety brought on by a busy life.
Say a Mantra and breathe. Like, really – breathe.
Words have the power and ability to both lift us up and bring us down. Lift yourself up with words of power – my personal favorite is “I am equipped to conquer this”. Other good mantras can be a single word, like “Resilient”, “Brave” and “Daring”.
Breathe. This sounds SO simple, but we rarely breathe deeply in our busy days. Take a breath. Inhale. Exhale. Repeat.
Put on some music
Music, like words, can lift us to the skies. I love putting some good tunes on, and tuning out my stressors. Here’s my favorite Anti-Anxiety playlist on Spotify. Turn it up and tune out anxiety.
Dealing with sadness
Sometimes, we just feel down. Blame it on the weather, a letdown at work, or the failure of a new relationship. But sadness doesn’t deserve a place in your heart. Next time you’re feeling sad, try out these techniques.
Laugh at something
It’s obvious I know, but laughter is the best medicine. A funny animal video always makes me crack up! Check out this one <link> watch and be ready for the giggles.
Growing up in California, I was blessed to have sunshine in my life almost every day. Now, whenever I feel sad, I go outside and sit in the sun for a few moments. The warmth from the rays, along with some valuable vitamin D, will have you naturally feeling better.
*Bonus points for smelling some flowers!
Help someone out
Science has proven that doing good makes us feel good. Hold the door open for someone, spend a few hours volunteering, or just do a good deed for another citizen. Trust me, their gratitude will put a smile on your face.
Ah, stress. The thing everyone has, but nobody wants. Stress can feel out of control, but it is not unstoppable. Here are my favorite three things to do when I feel like my stress is getting the best of me.
I know, I know, you’ve heard this before! But it really works! You don’t have to go all-out on an intense workout; simply doing some light yoga, or going for a nice stroll will lower stress and boost your mood!
Take a bath – try aromatherapy
Sometimes all we need is a good soak to slow down and stop the stress from ruining our evenings. Take a nice hot bath to relax, and take it to spa-level worthiness a bath bomb or Epsom salts!
* If you add lavender essential oils (which I highly recommend), make sure to test the essential oils on your hand first to see if you’re sensitive before dipping in – just to play it safe!
Identify the causes of your stress
What is making you stressed out? A certain coworker, project, or deadline? Finding the root of your stress is one step closer to reducing triggers. I find that journaling my stresses and tracing them back to the cause of can make it easier to identify and manage what’s causing my own woes.
Once you find the cause, or triggering factors of your stress, you can take steps to avoid or eliminate them.
If you find yourself chronically stressed, it may be time to take a step back. What patterns and activities seem to trigger episodes of high-stress? Think hard about what is causing you to be so stressed, and what changes you may be able to make in your life.
You don’t deserve to be stressed out all the time. Life is meant to be lived and enjoyed. – AH