The happiest people will find themselves trapped in the wormhole of these mentally and physically deteriorating emotions not once, but many times in their lives. It makes you admire the brain for its ability to control your heart in seemingly sorcerous ways.
Discomfort, isolation, uncertainty, jealousy, stress. These are just a few of the normal unavoidable emotions that people experience in the span of their lifetime. This bares the question, how can you prevent these strenuous times of despair?
Well, you can’t. These low points are what raise the high points that much higher. Keeping that in mind, it is important that you have been taking care of yourself mentally and physically. With a background in self-love and prioritizing your mind over the many distractions in the world, you will always have a light shining on you from the end of the tunnel.
Every person practices self-love differently than the next, but in the end it all follows the same idea: Prioritize yourself. Prioritize your body, mind, and soul.
The epitome of self-love is keeping yourself healthy. Obviously, this includes your body. You can benefit your physical health by keeping healthy habits. This includes staying active, eating healthy and pampering yourself when necessary. If you ask anyone how they practice self-love their answer will probably involve a way that they pamper themselves. Enjoying a nice bath and face-mask is as necessary as anything because it is making you happy and calming you down.
Your physical health has to be good to support your mental journey. Along with exercise, make a habit of cooking at home. This small step assures that you know what you are feeding your body and allows you to make more healthy choices than a restaurant might. Putting effort into these things is not about your appearance but more focused on improving your physical health. The better your health is, the better you will feel.
However, it is very important to focus on your mind since it is the home base of your emotions. At the end of the day, being happy is what we are in a constant strive towards. You can start by doing daily positive affirmations, a task that seems so silly until you have a peek of the effects they have. Positive affirmations are the self-inflicted turn of everyone’s favorite “The Help” quote. “You is smart. You is kind. You is important.” But instead, “I am smart. I am kind. I am important.”
I am beautiful. I am successful. I am worthy.
These consistent reminders of worth are the first ingredient in a healthy mindset. Look in the mirror and tell yourself your worth, as if you were talking to the person you love most. Soon, you will know the truth in your statements and stop questioning yourself. This small activity can help you take large strides before you even leave your house in the morning.
In addition to this — and my absolute favorite version of self-love — is making the effort to unplug. I am as reliant on technology as the next person, but I see the vitality of taking a break. Put your phone away, turn the TV off, and be present. Technology makes it easy for us to escape reality, but we shouldn’t allow ourselves to rely on it. You can do this by taking a few minutes each day to unplug or making sure you do it for the big moments: concerts, parties, etc. After separating yourself from technology one time, you will become addicted to the feeling of indulging in real moments, not scripted ones.
The most challenging, yet simplistic, thing you can do to practice self-love is to create a growth mindset. Do not allow yourself to settle or plateau. Having something to work towards and better gives you a reason to wake up in the morning. It allows you a reason to break barricades and maneuver obstacles. You have heard people tell you to make goals, but that isn’t the only way to grow. Instead prioritize putting yourself in environments that will allow you to learn. If you are watching a movie, pick one about a culture that you are ignorant on. In the car? Download a new album, podcast or audiobook. Don’t just listen to the radio’s top hits again. In the most basic daily routines you can find a way to have a new experience.
If you do decide you want to work towards something specific, create a vision board instead of setting goals for yourself one at a time. Envision what you want your life to look like and make decisions every day to work towards that. Goals don’t have to be as black and white as “get a promotion” or “lose 5 pounds.” You can decide that one day you want to be in a different type of work setting with more responsibility or live a healthier lifestyle and then start making your decisions with those bigger pictures in mind.
In the entire process of self-love, it is vital to be honest with yourself. Allowing yourself to be dishonest to you is the lowest form of self-depreciation. You are doing this if you ignore looking at your bank account, procrastinate cleaning or getting work done, or deny your anxieties. Journaling or simply writing down your feelings is a seamless way to come clean to yourself so you can create a healthier growth-based mindset.
If you are taking time to prioritize yourself, you are practicing self-love. This idea has no limits, especially within the lines of this article. Everyone can find ways unique to themselves to care for their mind, body and soul. Self-love is not a scheduled time of the week but a way to live each day. You can start by experimenting with ways that I have listed, figure out what works best for you, and go off of that. The bottom line is that you are more worthy of obtaining your own love than anyone else is, and you need to act on it.
Hi friends! My name is Allie King I am a senior at the University of Kentucky studying print and multimedia journalism and business. My favorite things are music, design, and storytelling of any sort. Anytime I am able to sit down and learn someone new’s story, I am a happy gal. I am not sure what is in store for me after this year, but I can only hope to work a job that allows me to celebrate my interests. For now, I am enjoying my last year at UK and spending it with my best friends.