In the case of Luke, he wanted to make me cum because he wanted to feel good about himself. He hungered to be the magical, modern man that gifted me with a squirt. I left that night feeling guilty for not “cumming for him.” I wondered if I should have bitten the bullet and faked it.
The lack of LGBT+ acceptance in sex education “sends a dangerous message to LGBTQ students, along with their non-LGBTQ peers, that they are not an equal and valued part of the school community,” according to Dr. Joe Kosciw, GLSEN’s Chief Research and Strategy Officer.
It was cases like these that made me think that I would have to try a little harder to get someone to desire me. I felt like because of my size, I was just going to have to miss out on amazing, pleasurable sex.
STDs and STIs are a common punchline. We’re used to the stereotypical “loose girls, fuckboys and overall dirty, worthless people” being tainted with herpes. The thing is, STD/STIs are incredibly common and no one is ever worthless.
And still – while sexual freedom is encouraged, women seem to be the only ones facing ridicule and stigma regarding sex outside of relationships. The reason why? Gender.